tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3951111914200615079.post75202419285397276..comments2024-03-15T13:31:01.610-07:00Comments on Jasper's Cottage: New BeginningsJasper's Cottagehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00783456806311239841noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3951111914200615079.post-45493933604861755052011-09-21T06:11:28.732-07:002011-09-21T06:11:28.732-07:00Cakes, understand that you experienced a major dis...Cakes, understand that you experienced a major disruption of your life, your constant shadow and best friend (Taz excepted) has left a hole in your heart. I completely understand and KNOW that two months is not enough time to go through all those stages...not even close..because you miss him every single minute of every single day!! You cannot share that kind of bond with someone after 15 years and get over it in two months. Don't put a time line on how you feel...it's so gradual, this feeling of acceptance and going on with life in a not quite fulfilled way. Because that's what it is..you are empty of that bond. That bond that is like no other, and those with children might find it hard to understand that bond..but I understand it. You lost your child and that is not something that mends...ever. You will NEVER stop feeling the loss. You will just find more and more things to fill that emptiness over time. Hope I'm not too blunt, but having gone through this and knowing I'll go through it again, in not quite the same way, is somewhat torturous, but it's also a sweet rapturous torture, because you crave the bond, but it's so hard severing from it through no control of your own. I so wish dogs lived longer lives, because of all the unconditional love they give it seems unfair that they don't; they deserve to. So we have to struggle to balance our long lives with their very short ones and the only blessing we have is that we can share our lives with more than one best friend in a lifetime. We can brighten and fill the life of a dog for as long as we are given, so take some comfort in that..that we love and bond with our babies and we can leave this world knowing that we helped the world's most loyal animal have a healthy and happy, purpose-filled life. Love you lots, girl..wish I could've seen you and Taz in FL..let me know when you return.<br />Laurielaurie1013https://www.blogger.com/profile/10441046737079219129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3951111914200615079.post-10542530011785562682011-09-01T16:20:40.815-07:002011-09-01T16:20:40.815-07:00You just have to allow yourself to mourn...as long...You just have to allow yourself to mourn...as long as you're getting out and doing things and allowing life to move ahead. It's so so hard, but life has to move on (speaking after a year of deep mourning for my mom). It doesn't mean you're not going to be sad sometimes.<br />Another way that we're alike. I'm good at hiding my feelings also I was devastated after my father-in-law died and was so surprised when my sister-in-law told me that when she was feeling overwhelmed at the funeral home the day of the visitation, she would seek me out because she knew I could make her laugh. Yet I was so very sad...Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14858720522828231380noreply@blogger.com