Only a few more days until Christmas! We're all ready with the kids' presents but I actually haven't gotten things for Chris. He got an early present, something he wanted for basketball, and I have made surprise plans for all 4 of us to go see a favorite singing person at a county fair in January but I'd like to get a couple more little things for him. I haven't been able to get out by myself this week because of the kids so I'm hoping I can have a little time to myself on Saturday, just an hour should do it.
I'll have all the time in the world to myself on New Years Eve during the day. I had this great idea that Chris and I (the kids will be with their mother) would get a bunch of snacks in the house and do a movie marathon all day with each of us picking our favorite movies but yesterday Chris informed me that his best friend and business partner was coming over that day to work on the shed that was just delivered and that they are turning into an office. I know they need to work on it but it irks me that he made plans for NYE and didn't even bother to ask if I had anything planned for the 2 of us. We so rarely get time together and our last 2 New Years Eves have been less than romantic so, yeah, I had plans and I'm not thrilled he didn't even think about it.
But I'm nothing if not flexible so I'm already on to Plan B - something just for me. It fits in with my new mantra of balance. I'm going to spend the day doing the things I used to do, things I love. I think I'll drive to a cute little town just an hour away and visit the Saturday market there, have lunch at my favorite French bakery and shop in the vintage store next door which is my absolute favorite place. The town is adorable and they have these big swings in the middle of the street so you can swing and people watch.
It's the sort of thing Taz and I used to do all the time and I went there several times by myself after Taz passed but I haven't been there in over 2 years now because it's not the sort of thing Chris would ever think of doing. So that's where the balance comes in - I need to do the things I love from time to time even if I have to do it by myself.
Yesterday I wrote down a list of all the things I love and that I haven't been doing lately. I'm going to figure out a way to do something from that list once a month whether it's with the kids, just Chris and me, or just me.
Travel
Read
Visit cute towns like Mount Dora and Winter Garden
Explore new cute towns
Flea Markets
Vintage Fairs
Movie Theaters
Fun restaurants - definitely don’t have to be expensive
Festivals and Fairs
Food Trucks
Historic Research
Visit Historic Sites
Adventureland stuff
Beach
Zoos
Sing
What I’d like to start doing:
Learn to use my new camera
Take photos
Vlog
Bake
Jewelry crafting
Sew
Write a book or two
Make hats
Learn to fly
Develop an Adventure Character
One fun thing I did recently was drive to Alabama to see my brother in his 40th anniversary performance in The Nutcracker ballet. He's been playing Herr Drosselmeyer since the first performance in 1982 and he's kind of a legend in his little town.
Taz and I made this trip several times to visit my family so I stopped at our favorite gas station because it's familiar and also because they have the most amazing leather purses there. I found one I just had to have and I was definitely in the mood to give myself a little treat.
I left early in the morning so that I could make it to town by lunch time to meet up with my brother and his new wife along with my nephew and his wife. We had a fabulous time at lunch, lots of laughs and great food. I was so glad I'd made the effort to get there early enough.
First off, wow that is awesome about your brother and his role!. How cool, he's a legend! You've definitely got a LOT on your plate. A new marriage, kids (and we're no spring chickens😆) your job and still working your way thru being a young widow. On top of missing Taz I'm sure. That's good that you took some time for yourself and to do something you enjoy. Don't feel bad about people not attending your wedding, it's pretty much the way the world is these days, people can't be bothered. That's why Ky and I ran off to Vegas 😂. You should definitely write a book, you're such a talented writer! Sending hugs and hang in there!!!
ReplyDeleteEesh and I wish I still looked as young as my profile pic here, should probably update it!
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